https://youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg Laura How is a relationship therapist specialising in sexless marriage and female sexual desire in long-term relationships. On this channel Laura explains the psychological dynamics behind intimacy, desire, and emotional connection in relationships. Her videos explore topics such as sexless marriage, desire mismatch, communication breakdown, and how couples can rebuild intimacy, trust, and sexual confidence. Laura works with couples and individuals worldwide through online relationship therapy and also offers in-person sessions in Somerset, UK. Learn more about Laura’s work: https://laurahow.com TV & Film Podsync generator (support us at https://github.com/mxpv/podsync) en-us Sat, 11 Apr 2026 00:25:02 +0000 Mon, 24 Jan 2022 13:18:42 +0000 https://yt3.ggpht.com/pAkE38u48zpI76F5jWKLkoS2ebyG0YtPZj0JpMDxzOoy_TMXLazuRLadL6IbgVa47bBsbsVPTg=s800-c-k-c0x00ffffff-no-rj https://youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg Laura How Laura How no _FoSZJSe-rs https://youtube.com/watch?v=_FoSZJSe-rs Marriage is sexually exclusive. Which means the promise not to have sex outside it carries an implicit agreement that sex will happen within it. So any change to that arrangement isn't one person's decision to make. In this video I explain why opting out of intimacy in a sexless marriage isn't simply a personal choice and why that isn't coercion. 🔔 For more on intimacy in marriage and sexless marriage dynamics, subscribe and follow. ⚠️ This content is intended for safe, stable and loving relationships only. It does not endorse pressure, coercion, or non-consensual sexual contact of any kind. #SexlessMarriage #IntimacyInMarriage #MarriageAdvice #Relationships #MarriageProblems #RelationshipAdvice Tue, 07 Apr 2026 16:30:19 +0000 Laura How The Marriage Contract Nobody Talks About 1:20 no 1 zebp3bdMxa4 https://youtube.com/watch?v=zebp3bdMxa4 In a monogamous marriage, sex isn't optional for either partner. When you promise not to have sex outside the marriage, you're also agreeing that sex will happen within it. That makes any change to your sexual relationship a decision that belongs to both of you. 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ This video was made by request from female followers who pointed out that a sexless marriage is just as painful for women as it is for men. And they're right to complain they isn’t enough of this content for them. So, this one is for husbands and wives equally and it's best watched together. In this video, I cover: ✔️ Why sex in marriage is a shared pillar — not an individual appetite ✔️ The difference between healthy pressure and coercion ✔️ What psychosexual health is and why it matters ✔️ Why the language we use about sex reveals more than we realise ✔️ The real barriers couples face — and how healthy couples navigate them ✔️ What sexually vibrant couples actually look like ✔️ Why there are no positive outcomes for a sexless marriage Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: What's one thing you're going to do differently after watching this? 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 Marriage as a Sexually Exclusive Relationship 00:34 Who This Video Is For (Disclaimer) 00:57 Sex Is a Shared Marital Responsibility 01:34 Why Monogamy Makes Sex Unique 02:00 Is This Coercion? No — Here's Why 02:54 The Healthy Pressure to Keep Sex Alive 03:41 Two Foundations of Fulfilling Marital Sex 04:49 The Cultural Problem With How We View Marital Sex 05:24 The True Value of a Good Sex Life 06:17 How Healthy Couples Handle Sexual Challenges 07:32 The Real Benefits of a Sexually Vibrant Marriage 08:15 Sex Is a Worthwhile Investment — Be Intentional 08:40 Final Thoughts 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DeadBedroom #IntimacyInMarriage #MarriageTherapy #CouplesTherapy #SexInMarriage #MarriageHelp #PsychosexualHealth Mon, 06 Apr 2026 14:07:59 +0000 Laura How You Can't Opt Out of Sex in Marriage 9:09 no 2 5Oy6-xLDl-w https://youtube.com/watch?v=5Oy6-xLDl-w If you’re stuck in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably asked yourself the same questions over and over again. Should I stay? Should I leave? Should I accept it? And what happens when nothing seems to change no matter what you try? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ After thousands of comments on this channel, the same patterns keep coming up. In this video, I answer the most common questions I hear from men trying to navigate long-term sexual rejection, emotional disconnection, and the reality of a relationship that no longer feels alive. This is a straightforward Q&A where I walk through the real decisions people are facing, what it means to stay in a relationship that’s harming you, and why honesty is often the starting point most people avoid. ________________________________________ In this video, I cover: ✔️ What to do when nothing changes, stay, leave, or accept ✔️ Whether a marriage can truly survive without sex ✔️ Is sexual withholding abusive, neglectful, or something else ✔️ Porn, cheating, and what happens when intimacy disappears ✔️ Why sex often dies after children, perimenopause, or menopause ✔️ What thriving actually looks like in a relationship ✔️ Why honesty is the first step most people avoid ________________________________________ Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ________________________________________ 💬 Let me know in the comments: If nothing changed, how long would you stay? ________________________________________ 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________ ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 Answering Your Top 5 Sexless Marriage Questions 0:17 Stay, Leave, or Accept a Sexless Marriage? 1:56 Can a Marriage Survive Without Sex? 2:54 Is Sexual Withholding Abuse? 4:46 Porn & Cheating in a Dead Bedroom 6:01 When Sex Dies After Kids or Menopause 7:27 The Bottom Line ________________________________________ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DeadBedroom #IntimacyInMarriage #MarriageTherapy #RelationshipTherapist #MarriageHelp Tue, 31 Mar 2026 04:32:37 +0000 Laura How Stay, Leave or Accept? Answering Your Biggest Sexless Marriage Questions 7:47 no 3 2WlpRA6vL1U https://youtube.com/watch?v=2WlpRA6vL1U If you've noticed your sex life decline after having children, you're not alone. In this team episode we talk honestly about why intimacy after baby is one of the biggest threats to a marriage, what drives resentment between partners in the newborn phase, and what couples can actually do to reconnect sexually before distance becomes the default.👉 Book online sessions with Zac or Marijke: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Having a baby is one of the most beautiful things a couple can do together, and one of the most threatening to their sexual bond. We explore why the arrival of children so often becomes the beginning of the end for intimacy, and what it actually takes to choose each other through it. 👉 Book a session with Zac: https://laurahow.com/therapists-zac-fine/ 👉 Book a session with Marijke: https://laurahow.com/therapists-marijke-roberts/ In this episode, we discuss: ✔️ Why new parenthood can become the beginning of the end for intimacy ✔️ The resentment trap — and why both partners fall into it ✔️ How porn fills the gap when men check out instead of leaning in ✔️ The "crucible" — why crisis is the perfect ingredient for transformation ✔️ Why reclaiming your sexuality after babies is an act of courage ✔️ How Russ made Laura his muse and what that looked like in practice ✔️ The danger of anti-marriage messaging and the friends who normalise it ✔️ Why a sexy, stable marriage is the greatest gift you can give your children ✔️ Maturity, choice, and why parenthood removes every excuse not to show up We record this monthly — we'd love to hear from you. 👉 Leave your questions in the comments for the next episode. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for monthly conversations about: sexless marriages, intimacy after children, responsive desire, resentment and repair, and what it really takes to keep a marriage alive long-term. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or one of the therapists on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect and grow: 💠 Therapists — Work with me: https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ 💠 Join my newsletter: https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ 💠 Support my work: https://laurahow.com/support/ 📲 Follow me: Instagram → / laurahow Facebook → / laurahowcounsellor Twitter (X) → / laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚️ Timestamps: ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #IntimacyAfterBaby #MarriageAdvice #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageCounselling #IntimacyInMarriage #LauraHow #ParenthoodAndSex #LoveAndCherishPodcast Fri, 27 Mar 2026 16:19:41 +0000 Laura How Sex & Intimacy After Children | Zac Fine & Marijke Roberts 34:02 no 4 5nSUNHb_wog https://youtube.com/watch?v=5nSUNHb_wog Sexual withdrawal doesn't come up on the list of harmful behaviours in marriage — but it should. We challenge cruelty. We challenge contempt. We challenge neglect, addiction, and infidelity. But when there's no intimacy, no willingness to talk about it, and no effort to change it — that silence causes damage too. If your partner is withdrawing without explanation or engagement, you're allowed to name it. 🔔 Subscribe for more straight-talking relationship insight. Thu, 26 Mar 2026 09:47:49 +0000 Laura How The Harmful Marriage Behavior Nobody Talks About 0:23 no 5 anmCAw_ZY-Q https://youtube.com/watch?v=anmCAw_ZY-Q “Feminism has always been a force for good and equality.” Is that really the full story? In this conversation with philosopher and author Carrie Gress, we explore how feminist ideas have shaped modern relationships, and why many men and women are now questioning the narrative they were raised to believe. 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Carrie Gress, Catholic philosopher, author of The End of Woman and co-creator of Theology of Home, joins me for a direct and thoughtful discussion about the deeper impact of feminist ideology on marriage, family life, and how men and women now relate to each other. We talk about the growing divide between the sexes, the loss of trust, and the quiet confusion many people feel but struggle to name. From rising mental health concerns to the breakdown of shared meaning in relationships, this conversation looks at what’s changed, and what it’s costing us. We also explore ideas that are rarely spoken about openly, including the concept of “toxic femininity,” the devaluing of motherhood, and why conversations about men’s needs are often met with resistance. This is not about blaming one side. It’s about understanding what has gone wrong, and what needs to be rebuilt. In this episode: ✔️ Why many people are starting to question feminism’s impact on relationships ✔️ The growing mistrust between men and women ✔️ Mental health struggles in both sexes, and what’s driving them ✔️ Why “toxic femininity” is rarely discussed ✔️ The devaluing of motherhood and its wider consequences ✔️ Why talking about men’s needs creates backlash ✔️ The impact on children and future family life ✔️ How modern culture shapes how we see each other ✔️ Why restoring trust between men and women matters ✔️ What a more grounded, family-centred life could look like 👉 Find Carrie Gress: • Website: https://www.carriegress.com/ • Theology of Home: https://theologyofhome.com/ • Bio: https://www.carriegress.com/about 💬 Let me know in the comments: Do you think feminism has helped or harmed modern relationships? What are you seeing in your own life? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for conversations that challenge mainstream narratives about marriage, men, women, and what really creates lasting connection: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps [Add after editing] ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #Feminism #MarriageAdvice #MensIssues #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #CarrieGress #MarriageCounselling #IntimacyInMarriage #LauraHow #TheologyOfHome # Wed, 25 Mar 2026 14:11:41 +0000 Laura How Feminism Has Failed Women (And Men) 24:38 no 6 L4LwLAM0opM https://youtube.com/watch?v=L4LwLAM0opM Sexual frequency in marriage has dropped 50%+ since the 1990s — and this cultural narrative is partly why. "Women don't owe men anything" belongs in a single life. Not a marriage. Marriage is built entirely on what we give to each other. The moment "I don't owe you anything" becomes the operating principle of your relationship, you're not in a partnership anymore. 💬 Does this resonate? Drop a comment below. 📺 Watch the full video on my channel. #Marriage #Relationships #MarriageAdvice #Intimacy #RelationshipAdvice #Shorts #SexlessMarriage Tue, 24 Mar 2026 17:30:19 +0000 Laura How The Narrative That's Poisoning Every Marriage #Marriage #Relationships #MarriageAdvice #Intimacy 0:43 no 7 V6X7Vm5ffqQ https://youtube.com/watch?v=V6X7Vm5ffqQ If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably been told to communicate better, be more patient, or focus on emotional connection. But what if you’ve already done all of that… and nothing has changed? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ In this video, I explain why sexual withdrawal in marriage should be treated like any other harmful pattern, why the reasons given don’t always lead to change, and why so many men feel stuck after doing everything they’ve been told to do. If you’re a good husband — loyal, kind, genuinely trying — and you’re still being met with avoidance, silence, or shifting reasons, this video is for you. Important disclaimer: This video does not apply to situations involving abuse, coercion, betrayal, chronic pain, or serious unresolved relationship dysfunction. I am addressing a pattern where intimacy has disappeared and there is no movement toward resolving it. ________________________________________ In this video, I cover: ✔️ Why sexual withdrawal should be taken as seriously as any other marriage problem ✔️ The difference between real reasons and ongoing avoidance ✔️ The common phrases that shut down intimacy conversations ✔️ Why trying harder often makes no difference ✔️ The emotional toll of long-term rejection in marriage ✔️ Why sexless marriages are increasing across Western countries ✔️ How to address the problem without attacking your partner ✔️ What to do when nothing seems to change ________________________________________ Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ________________________________________ 💬 Let me know in the comments: At what point does a lack of intimacy become a serious problem in a marriage? ________________________________________ 💬 Link to study references: https://laurahow.com/the-sexless-marriage-epidemic-why-marital-sex-is-declining/ ________________________________________ 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________ ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 Intro ________________________________________ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DeadBedroom #IntimacyInMarriage #MarriageTherapy #RelationshipTherapist #MarriageHelp Mon, 23 Mar 2026 16:10:56 +0000 Laura How She Knows. She’s Just Doesn't Care. 9:39 no 8 0NngH7Z9aVU https://youtube.com/watch?v=0NngH7Z9aVU Many couples who come to me feel confused about what happened to their marriage. They still care. They may even communicate well. But something important has quietly disappeared: the sexual connection. The advice is almost always the same: work on communication and emotional closeness, and things will improve. But in many long-term relationships, the sequence runs the other way. The sexual connection fades first, and emotional distance grows in the space it leaves behind. A lot of marriages don't have a communication problem. They have an intimacy problem. 🔗 Full video on the channel — link below. 👇 Work through it together: laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ #intimacyinmarriage #marriageadvice #sexlessmarriage #relationshipadvice #longtermrelationships #marriagehelp #laurahow Tue, 17 Mar 2026 11:33:07 +0000 Laura How Why Everything Your Therapist Told You to Do Won't Fix Your Sexless Marriage #intimacyinmarriage 0:44 no 9 XCH50l2HPk4 https://youtube.com/watch?v=XCH50l2HPk4 If you're in a sexless marriage, you've probably been told to work on communication. But what if the real problem isn't emotional connection, it's sexual disconnection? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ In this video, I explain why sexual withdrawal in long-term relationships is more common than most people realise, why emotional connection doesn’t always restore desire, and how couples can begin repairing intimacy by addressing the real issue. If you’re in a low-sex or sexless marriage, feeling rejected, confused, or wondering why nothing seems to fix the distance between you, this video will help you understand what may actually be happening in your relationship. Important disclaimer: This video does not apply to relationships involving abuse, coercion, betrayal, or serious relationship dysfunction. Here I am discussing the far more common situation where sexual intimacy has gradually disappeared in an otherwise stable marriage. ________________________________________ In this video, I cover: ✔️ Why declining sexual desire is common in long-term relationships ✔️ Why emotional connection alone often does not restore intimacy ✔️ How sexual withdrawal can trigger emotional withdrawal in marriages ✔️ The research on desire differences between men and women ✔️ How couples can begin rebuilding sexual and emotional connection together ________________________________________ Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ________________________________________ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Do you think most couples are trying to solve the wrong problem when intimacy disappears? ________________________________________ 💬 Link to study references: https://laurahow.com/intimacy-disappears-in-marriage/ ________________________________________ 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________ ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 Why "work on communication" is getting it backwards 0:33 Safety disclaimer: who this video is NOT about 1:14 Why women lose desire in marriage (the 2019 study) 2:20 Sexual satisfaction predicts relationship quality 3:12 How a sexless marriage affects husbands emotionally 4:51 Why couples therapy misses the real problem 5:29 Why your wife stopped wanting sex 7:45 The turning point: when wives realise what they lost 9:30 How to rebuild intimacy in your marriage 10:39 It's not a communication problem — it's a sex problem ________________________________________ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #IntimacyInMarriage #MarriageTherapy #DeadBedroom #RelationshipTherapist #MarriageHelp Mon, 16 Mar 2026 16:51:12 +0000 Laura How You Don't Have an 'Emotional Connection' Problem. You Have a Sex Problem. 11:56 no 10 7oCkdTe5a58 https://youtube.com/watch?v=7oCkdTe5a58 If you love your husband but you no longer want sex, you're not alone. Many women in long-term marriages experience low libido or a loss of sexual desire after the honeymoon phase fades. In this video, I explain why this happens, what often blocks desire in long-term relationships, and how couples can intentionally rebuild intimacy. If you find yourself avoiding sex, feeling confused about your libido, or wondering where your desire went, this video will help you understand what's going on — and what you can do about it. Important disclaimer: This video is for women in loving marriages who want to want sex but currently struggle with desire. It does not apply to relationships involving abuse, coercion, infidelity, or cruelty. If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek professional support. ________________________________________ In this video, I cover: ✔️ Why female desire often changes after the honeymoon phase ✔️ The biological, lifestyle, and relationship factors that can suppress libido ✔️ Why avoiding sex often creates more relationship tension over time ✔️ How intentional intimacy can help rebuild desire ✔️ Practical ways couples can begin reconnecting physically and emotionally ________________________________________ Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ________________________________________ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Was there a moment you first noticed the shift? I'd love to hear your experience. ________________________________________ 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________ ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 Why you've lost desire (and why it's not your fault) 0:31 Who this video is for 0:54 The biology behind declining desire 1:44 Why "normal" doesn't mean harmless 2:00 The Pillars of a Rich Life 3:00 The truth about sexless marriages 3:48 What sexlessness does to a relationship 4:26 The real question to ask yourself 5:00 Block 1: Sex hormones 5:15 Block 2: Medications 5:26 Block 3: Diet & exercise 5:40 Block 4: Relationship tension 5:59 Block 5: Early sexual experiences 6:18 Block 6: Cultural messages 6:34 How to reignite desire 6:46 Intentionality & the running analogy 7:16 Choice, consent & health 7:45 Making it a team effort 7:58 Getting out of your head and into your body 8:55 "But I don't have time" 9:17 Creating a sacred space for intimacy 10:02 The case for scheduled intimacy 10:37 The positive feedback loop 11:18 Address the blocks first 11:51 Your sex life is yours — own it 12:37 How I can help 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #FemaleDesire #MarriageAdvice Mon, 09 Mar 2026 20:01:29 +0000 Laura How I Love Him But I Don't Want Sex Anymore 13:20 no 11 tlCzjpBtW5A https://youtube.com/watch?v=tlCzjpBtW5A When sex disappears in marriage, men go looking for answers. In a low-sex or sexless marriage, the explanations you’ll find online often sound convincing — but they’re wrong, and believing them makes things worse. 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ In this video, I unpack the five most damaging myths about female desire and intimacy in marriage — the ones that fuel resentment, kill communication, and destroy connection. If you’re in a dead bedroom situation, feeling rejected, confused, or questioning what’s really going on with your wife, this will help you think clearly about what’s actually happening — and what to do next. ________________________________________ Important disclaimer: This video does not apply to relationships involving coercion, abuse, or control. If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek professional support. ________________________________________ In this video, I cover: ✔️ Why “female desire is broken” is a myth — and what responsive desire really means ✔️ The truth behind the “bait and switch” — why desire fades after the honeymoon phase ✔️ Why “sex is a weapon” is usually a misread — and what withdrawal actually signals ✔️ Why no sex doesn’t automatically mean she’s having an affair ✔️ Why “if she loved you, she would” is one of the most dangerous beliefs of all ✔️ What both men and women need to understand to rebuild intimacy ________________________________________ Ready to take this seriously? 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis or stuck marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book an online session with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 Book recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ________________________________________ 📚 Mentioned in this video: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.co.uk/Come-You-Are-Emily-Nagoski/dp/1476762090 Weaponising Sex? ioRe-awXQ50 ________________________________________ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Which of these 5 lies hit hardest for you? And has believing it kept you stuck? ________________________________________ 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ________________________________________ ⏱️Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: The Internet's Harmful Narratives 00:31 5 Lies About Women & Sex That Are Destroying Your Marriage 00:54 Disclaimer: Low-Sex/Sexless Marriages (Not Abuse/Infidelity) 01:06 Lie #1: Female Desire Is Broken 02:18 Lie #2: The Bait & Switch 03:02 Personal Story: My Own Marriage Experience 03:53 Lie #3: Sex Is a Weapon 05:07 Lie #4: No Sex = Affair! 06:29 Lie #5: If She Loved You, She Would 07:58 Why Empathy Changes Everything 08:48 Why Sex Still Matters in Marriage 09:08 Communication & Mutual Generosity 11:03 One-Day Couples Intensives 12:00 Outro ________________________________________ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #DeadBedroom #FemaleDesire #ResponsiveDesire #MarriageAdvice #IntimacyInMarriage #CouplesTherapy #MensMentalHealth #LauraHow Mon, 02 Mar 2026 13:55:22 +0000 Laura How 5 Lies About Women and Sex in Marriage 12:19 no 12 eERLJKy9VFw https://youtube.com/watch?v=eERLJKy9VFw Told that sex is “just a want,” “not a real need,” or that you should simply accept a sexless marriage? Here is why that lie destroys marriages and men's mental health. 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ In this video, I explain why the idea that “sex is not a need” is one of the most damaging myths in modern marriage. This is not just a semantic argument. It’s a thought-terminating cliché that shuts down real conversation, reframes pain as selfishness, and reduces emotional and sexual connection between partners. If you feel invisible, dismissed, or made to doubt your own sanity for wanting intimacy in your marriage, this video is for you. Important disclaimer: This video does not apply to relationships involving coercion, abuse, or trauma. I’m speaking to good men in otherwise healthy marriages who understand consent and reciprocity, but whose needs are being dismissed as invalid. In this video, we cover: ✔️ Why “sex is just a want” is a thought-terminating cliché that blocks real conversation ✔️ The difference between survival needs and psychological needs in a marriage ✔️ What sexual intimacy actually represents for men: bonding, feeling wanted, feeling loved ✔️ What the research says about rejection, touch, stress, and mental health ✔️ Why a celibate monk and a touch-starved husband are not the same thing ✔️ Why this debate is really about rejection, not just frequency ✔️ What to do if you’ve explained what sex means to you and she still dismisses it ✔️ How to start the real conversation about intimacy without pressure, blame, or word games 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis situations): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book Recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you been told “sex is not a need” in your marriage? Did it shut the conversation down, or did you manage to get to what was really going on? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔗 Watch next: The Wisdom of Saying Yes to Intimacy: ZwIeCeb4bNI ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, emotional intimacy, sexual connection, and rebuilding real closeness: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #IntimacyInMarriage #EmotionalIntimacy #DeadBedroom #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #MarriageCounseling #MensMentalHealth #LauraHow Tue, 17 Feb 2026 15:42:49 +0000 Laura How "Just a Want?" Why This Lie Destroys Men 7:56 no 13 5sT9HqFq5qw https://youtube.com/watch?v=5sT9HqFq5qw Is your wife’s phone ruining your marriage? Are you stuck in a disconnected or sexless marriage because of screen addiction or social media addiction? 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ In this video, I explain why phone addiction and social media addiction are becoming one of the biggest hidden causes of emotional distance, loss of intimacy, and relationship breakdown in modern marriages. If your wife can’t put her phone down, this is not just bad habits, lack of effort, or “not caring enough.” It can be a real addiction cycle that changes how her brain works, distorts how she experiences the relationship, and slowly erodes emotional and sexual connection. If you feel like you’re competing with a screen for your wife’s attention, if meaningful conversations keep getting replaced by scrolling, or if “not tonight, I’m tired” is followed by 45 minutes on her phone, this video is for you. In this video, we cover: ✔️ Why social media works like a “modern hypodermic needle” (Dr. Anna Lembke) ✔️ How phone addiction and dopamine loops reduce emotional presence and attraction ✔️ The “Wormtongue Effect”, how social media quietly poisons her perception of you ✔️ What “phubbing” (phone snubbing) does to trust and intimacy in marriage ✔️ Why this feels like rejection, even when she says it’s “nothing” ✔️ How to set boundaries without being controlling or starting constant fights ✔️ Practical ways to invite her back into real connection, affection, and intimacy 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis situations): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book Recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you experienced this in your marriage? What helped, and what made it worse? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔗 Watch next: The Double Standard Ruining “Good” Marriages: QQBGlUTPoGU ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, emotional intimacy, sexual connection, and rebuilding real closeness: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #PhoneAddiction #ScreenAddiction #SocialMediaAddiction #MarriageAdvice #SexlessMarriage #EmotionalIntimacy #Phubbing #CouplesTherapy #ModernMarriage #RelationshipAdvice #LauraHow Mon, 09 Feb 2026 18:43:27 +0000 Laura How She Chose Her Phone Over You (Here's Why) 9:59 no 14 SoWFRHcR92c https://youtube.com/watch?v=SoWFRHcR92c "The Future is Female." But where does that leave our sons? In this conversation with George from The Tin Men, we examine the silent crisis facing men and boys, the institutional bias in our schools and courts, and why society seems to have lost its compassion for male suffering.👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ George, the creator behind The Tin Men, joins me for a critical look at how modern narratives are failing a generation of young men. From classrooms where boys are subjected to "misogyny training" and viewed as potential threats, to family courts that presume fathers are second-class parents, we explore how these systemic biases are destroying lives. We discuss the devastating data on male suicide, the widening education gap, and why standing up for boys has become a revolutionary act. In this episode: ✔️ The "War on Boys" in education: Why boys are falling behind ✔️ "Misogyny Training": How schools are teaching boys self-loathing ✔️ The "Violent Male" Myth and its impact on Family Court ✔️ Why society struggles to feel empathy for men ✔️ The link between relationship breakdown and male suicide ✔️ Institutional bias: Is the system rigged against fathers? ✔️ How to protect your sons from toxic narratives ✔️ Why "The Future is Female" is a dangerous slogan ✔️ The importance of male advocates like The Tin Men ✔️ How we can build a future that values both sexes 👉 Find The Tin Men: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetinmen/ Blog: https://thetinmen.blog/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Do you think schools and society are biased against boys? What changes have you noticed? 🔔 Subscribe for conversations that challenge mainstream narratives about marriage, men, women, and what really creates lasting connection: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ⌚ Timestamps 📌 Hashtags #TheTinMen #MensMentalHealth #WarOnBoys #FamilyCourt #Feminism #LauraHow #EducationGap #MensRights #FathersRights #Masculinity #SystemicBias #BoysCrisis Sat, 07 Feb 2026 08:53:31 +0000 Laura How Feminism's War On Men & Boys | George ‘TheTinMen’ 57:23 no 15 t7f2WNd6DMM https://youtube.com/watch?v=t7f2WNd6DMM Many women say they're okay with never having sex again, expecting acceptance. But imagine a husband refusing deep conversations. Emotional abandonment is seen as cruel, yet sexual withdrawal is a "boundary"? 🤔 #Marriage #SexlessMarriage #Relationships #Communication Tue, 03 Feb 2026 10:34:55 +0000 Laura How He Needs Connection Too #marriage #relationshipadvice #shorts 0:36 no 16 QQBGlUTPoGU https://youtube.com/watch?v=QQBGlUTPoGU If we expect men to "step up" emotionally, are we willing to "step up" sexually? 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ In this video, I challenge the modern double standard that is quietly ruining good marriages: the idea that emotional connection is a non-negotiable requirement, while sexual intimacy is treated as optional. We explore why refusing conversation is seen as abandonment, yet refusing sex is often praised as a "boundary" and why this imbalance is creating deep resentment in otherwise loving relationships. If you are looking to understand the link between emotional safety and physical desire, or if you want to move past a "sexless marriage" dynamic into a relationship of true reciprocity, this video is for you. In this video, we cover: ✔️ The unfair trade-off between emotional and sexual needs ✔️ Why sexual connection is a valid relationship responsibility ✔️ How to shift from "waiting to feel like it" to intentional intimacy ✔️ Understanding Responsive Desire vs. Spontaneous Desire 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis situations): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book Recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you experienced this double standard in your marriage? What helped you start stepping up? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔗 Watch next: The Wisdom of Saying YES to Intimacy in Your Marriage: v=XtC_2uTeWao ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, emotional intimacy, sexual connection, and building reciprocal relationships: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #DoubleStandard #MarriageAdvice #SexualIntimacy #EmotionalConnection #ResponsiveDesire #SexlessMarriage #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipReciprocity #SteppingUp #LauraHow Mon, 02 Feb 2026 16:46:36 +0000 Laura How The Double Standard Ruining 'Good' Marriages 8:39 no 17 IvColBZeO1I https://youtube.com/watch?v=IvColBZeO1I I'm joined by two therapists from my practice, Zac Fine and Marijke Roberts, for the second episode of our monthly series exploring how to restore sacred connection in long-term relationships.👉 Book online sessions with Zac or Marijke: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ When intimacy becomes mechanical or disappears entirely, couples lose more than just sex, they lose sacred space together. We discuss how to move beyond "getting the deed done" and rediscover intimacy as a profound, connected experience that honours both partners. 👉 Book a session with Zac: https://laurahow.com/therapists-zac-fine/ 👉 Book a session with Marijke: https://laurahow.com/therapists-marijke-roberts/ In this episode, we discuss: ✔️ Why sacred intimacy matters more than mechanical sex ✔️ Creating liminal space—ritual moments outside everyday life ✔️ Moving from "I want sex" to "I want connection with you" ✔️ Simple practices: eye contact, attuned breathing, mindful touch ✔️ The "Kings and Queens" exercise for asking and receiving ✔️ How porn culture has replaced sacred sexuality with performance ✔️ Responsive desire and why women often need different pathways to arousal ✔️ Attachment wounds that block intimacy and how to heal them ✔️ Turning conflict into curiosity when one partner withdraws ✔️ Why recovery is slow, human-paced work, not a quick fix We'll be recording this podcast monthly, and we'd love to hear from you. 👉 Leave your questions in the comments for the next episode. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for monthly conversations about: Sacred intimacy, sexless marriages, creating connection, responsive desire, attachment healing, and rediscovering meaningful sex in long-term relationships. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or one of the therapists on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect and grow: 💠 Therapists — Work with me: https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ 💠 Join my newsletter: https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ 💠 Support my work: https://laurahow.com/support/ 📲 Follow me: Instagram → / laurahow Facebook → / laurahowcounsellor Twitter (X) → / laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚️ Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Welcome to Love and Cherish Podcast 0:23 - Why Men Want Enthusiastic Partners: The Deep Need to Feel Wanted 1:57 - Creating Sacred Spaces for Intimacy: Moving Beyond Mechanical Sex 6:22 - Practical Connection Exercises: Eye Contact, Breathing, and Touch 10:48 - Learning to Listen to Your Body Instead of External Advice 13:56 - Kings and Queens Exercise: Taking Turns Asking for What You Want 16:32 - Getting Curious About Resistance: Why Intimacy Feels Hard 19:29 - Personal Story: Understanding Shame and Childhood Wounds in Relationships 24:26 - Attachment Theory and Healing: Moving Toward Secure Relationships 26:05 - Closing Thoughts: Embracing the Slow Process of Growth ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags: #SacredIntimacy #SexlessMarriage #IntimacyInMarriage #MakingLove #ResponsiveDesire #LiminalSpace #AttachmentHealing #MarriageTherapy #LoveAndCherishPodcast #ConnectionOverSex #MindfulIntimacy Sun, 01 Feb 2026 20:41:15 +0000 Laura How Making Intimacy Sacred | Zac Fine & Marijke Roberts 26:46 no 18 bsaqRCzWo_E https://youtube.com/watch?v=bsaqRCzWo_E Exploring the evolving definition of a 'good woman' in modern feminism. We discuss the loss of traditional virtues like self-sacrifice and discipline, contrasting them with modern ideals of challenging conventions. Sat, 31 Jan 2026 09:46:58 +0000 Laura How What Being a 'Good Woman' Actually Means Now #feminism #modern 0:38 no 19 eGH1VjhCDMs https://youtube.com/watch?v=eGH1VjhCDMs Is it now "normal" for women to boast about cruelty, infidelity, and destroying their families? In this powerful excerpt from my interview with Professor Janice Fiamengo, we discuss the complete loss of the "good woman" archetype in modern society. We explore how feminism has replaced traditional virtues like self-sacrifice, loyalty, and modesty with a culture that valorizes female anger and selfishness. Janice explains why true happiness comes from mutual caring and humility—not from "smashing conventions" or celebrating toxic behavior. In this clip: Why we no longer have a definition for a "good woman" The normalization of female infidelity and hating husbands Why being "good" is hard but leads to true life satisfaction How culture encourages women to be destructive rather than virtuous Watch the FULL Interview here: [Link to full video] 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Find Janice Fiamengo: Substack: https://fiamengofile.substack.com/ Book: Sons of Feminism: https://amzn.to/3Zf2DBZ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Do you think modern culture encourages women to be selfish? Is the concept of a "virtuous woman" dead? Sat, 31 Jan 2026 09:17:01 +0000 Laura How Has Feminism Made Women More Selfish? | Professor Janice Fiamengo 2:55 no 20 Q1KM0aBw4OE https://youtube.com/watch?v=Q1KM0aBw4OE Those beautiful older couples who appear so at ease have been saying 'yes' to each other for decades, not just emotionally or practically, but also with their intimacy. The video highlights that for many, sex in marriage is a primary conduit through which a husband feels loved and connected. It suggests that maintaining this aspect of your relationship is crucial for fostering a deeper connection and strengthening your marriage. Thu, 29 Jan 2026 10:22:43 +0000 Laura How The connection most couples are missing #marriage #couples #intimacyinmarriage 0:32 no 21 Tcryub8cb1A https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tcryub8cb1A Most marriages don't end because of a single betrayal. They disintegrate slowly through the accumulation of seemingly minor rejections: "Not tonight, I'm tired," the eye roll, the cold shoulder. If you're wondering why constant resistance is destroying your connection, here's what the research shows about bids for connection and why saying yes matters more than you realize. 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ John Gottman's research revealed that couples who remained married turned toward their partner's bids for connection 86% of the time, compared to just 33% for those who eventually divorced. A bid is any attempt to connect; "Can we talk?" "Can we make love?" a touch, a look, reaching for your hand. These small moments when your spouse reaches out to you are the building blocks of intimacy, and how you respond determines whether your marriage thrives or slowly starves. This video breaks down the three main patterns that drive couples apart, why fear of vulnerability keeps you stuck, and most importantly, how to reverse the damage before it's too late. Whether you've been turning away for months or years, you deserve to understand what's really happening in your marriage. Disclaimer: This video is for non-abusive, functional marriages where ongoing resistance to each other's needs is creating distance and withdrawal. If you're in an abusive or severely dysfunctional marriage, please seek professional help. In this video: ✔️ Why marriages die by a thousand cuts (research-backed) ✔️ Gottman's findings on bids for connection (86% vs 33%) ✔️ The three patterns destroying your marriage ✔️ Why fear of vulnerability keeps you stuck ✔️ How to identify what you're really protecting yourself from ✔️ The reframe that changes everything about bids ✔️ Why saying yes gets easier with practice (neuroscience) ✔️ How to say no with love (when you genuinely can't) ✔️ Why genuine enthusiasm matters more than reluctant compliance ✔️ How personal growth transforms reluctance into wholehearted yes ✔️ The one question your spouse is really asking: "Do I matter to you?" 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis situations): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Blog post with all research citations: https://laurahow.com/death-by-a-thousand-cuts-how-constant-rejection-can-destroy-your-marriage/ 👉 Book Recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you experienced death by a thousand cuts in your marriage? What helped you start saying yes again? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔗 Watch next: The Wisdom of Saying YES to Intimacy in Your Marriage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtC_2uTeWao ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, bids for connection, emotional intimacy, and building lasting connection: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #DeathByAThousandCuts #BidsForConnection #MarriageAdvice #GottmanMethod #EmotionalIntimacy #SayingYes #MarriageCounselling #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipHelp #TurningToward #LauraHow Mon, 26 Jan 2026 19:06:19 +0000 Laura How How Constant Rejection Destroys Marriage | Death By A Thousand Cuts 11:12 no 22 ZwIeCeb4bNI https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZwIeCeb4bNI "I don't feel like it anymore. Is that really such a big deal?" If you've been wondering whether sex actually matters in a loving marriage, here's what the research shows, and why sexual connection affects far more than you might realize. For wives who want to make an informed choice about intimacy. 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Many women have been told that declining sex is no big deal, that it's just about physical release, or that men should simply accept less intimacy. But the research tells a very different story. This video presents clinical data, real-world observations from my therapy room, and what happens in marriages where sex is prioritized versus marriages where it isn't. Whether you've been saying no for months or years, you deserve to understand the full picture before deciding how to move forward. In this video: ✔️ What happens in long-term sexless marriages ✔️ The health consequences for him, you, your marriage, and your kids ✔️ What sexually connected marriages look like ✔️ Why sexual generosity benefits YOU ✔️ How responsive desire works ✔️ Why body image and spectatoring block sexual connection ✔️ What your husband actually thinks about your body ✔️ How to overcome common barriers (exhaustion, hormones, stress) ✔️ Why sex is about communal strength, not obligation ✔️ The wisdom of saying yes to what your marriage requires ✔️ How to build the marriage you actually dreamed of Disclaimer: This video is for women in loving marriages with good husbands where sex is possible but has been deprioritized by choice. It does not apply to situations involving abuse, coercion, trauma, or medical/psychological conditions that prevent sexual activity. 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for crisis situations): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Blog post with all research citations: https://laurahow.com/the-wisdom-of-saying-yes-to-sex-in-your-marriage/ 👉 Book Recommendations: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: What barriers have you faced around sexual intimacy in your marriage? Body image, exhaustion, responsive desire, or something else? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔗 Watch next: 👉 How To Increase Female Libido (And Why That Matters): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtC_2uTeWao ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, responsive desire, and building lasting connection: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #SexInMarriage #SexlessMarriage #ResponsiveDesire #MarriageCounselling #IntimacyInMarriage #SexualCommunalStrength #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #MarriageHelp #FemaleSexuality #LauraHow Mon, 19 Jan 2026 19:15:51 +0000 Laura How The Wisdom of Saying YES to Intimacy in Your Marriage 15:23 no 23 o2CZIWqwknc https://youtube.com/watch?v=o2CZIWqwknc The good news: Men want women to flourish. The bad news: Many women don't want to hear it. Prof. Janice Fiamengo on why victim identity is more appealing than hope. Full interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SnnF5g35aHw Mon, 19 Jan 2026 08:34:13 +0000 Laura How Why Is Men's Care For Women Rejected? #shorts #relationships #janicefiamengo #feminism 0:48 no 24 SnnF5g35aHw https://youtube.com/watch?v=SnnF5g35aHw "Feminism has always been a force for good and equality." Is that really true? In this conversation with retired Professor Janice Fiamengo, we examine feminism's actual origins, its pervasive influence on modern relationships, and why so many men and women are waking up to a very different reality than what we've been told. 👉 Book an online session: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Professor Janice Fiamengo, creator of The Fiamengo Files video series and author of Sons of Feminism, joins me for an unflinching look at how feminist ideology has shaped our attitudes toward men, marriage, and family life. From classrooms teaching children that men are the problem, to therapy rooms filled with women who've been taught to fear and distrust their husbands, we explore how these ideas have taken root and what the cost has been to both sexes. This conversation challenges the narrative that feminism's only critics are those who hate women or want to deny them opportunities. Instead, we examine the historical record, question why certain perspectives have been suppressed, and ask what happens to societies that tell men they don't matter. In this episode: ✔️ Why feminism was never really about equality (the historical evidence) ✔️ How anti-male messaging appears everywhere (schools, therapy, media) ✔️ The victim mentality and why it's so appealing (and so destructive) ✔️ What happens when women lose faith in men ✔️ The natural order of family life and why it matters ✔️ How to recognize feminist ideology in your own thinking ✔️ Why restoring faith between the sexes is essential ✔️ The good news: men don't actually want to harm women ✔️ What a life centered on family and gratitude actually looks like ✔️ Why psychological problems shouldn't be blamed on an entire sex 👉 Find Janice Fiamengo: • The Fiamengo Files (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/@StudioBrule • Substack: https://fiamengofile.substack.com/ • Book: Sons of Feminism: https://amzn.to/3Zf2DBZ 💬 Let me know in the comments: Has feminist ideology affected your view of men or marriage? What's your experience been? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 Subscribe for conversations that challenge mainstream narratives about marriage, men, women, and what really creates lasting connection: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🧠 Need support? Work with me or a therapist on my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ One-Day Couples Intensive (crisis support): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💎 More ways to connect & grow Therapists, work with me → https://laurahow.com/work-for-me/ Join my newsletter → https://laurahow.com/newsletter-signup/ Support my work → https://laurahow.com/support/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor X (Twitter) → https://twitter.com/laurahow ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⌚ Timestamps ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📌 Hashtags #Feminism #MarriageAdvice #MensIssues #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #JaniceFiamengo #MarriageCounselling #IntimacyInMarriage #LauraHow #FiamengoFiles #TraditionalMarriage #FamilyLife Sat, 17 Jan 2026 11:27:54 +0000 Laura How The Truth About Feminism's Impact on Marriage and Men | Janice Fiamengo 1:04:51 no 25